In this unflinchingly honest account of one couple’s struggles through prostate cancer, told from the wife’s point of view, Victoria Hallerman writes poignantly of the six-year journey that changed the landscape of her and her husband’s lives. She and Dean had been married 33 years when he got the news and underwent treatment that included radioactive seeds and hormone therapy. Now cancer-free, he lends his voice, too, to the book in many candid sidebars.

Both a moving memoir and a supportive guidebook, How We Survived Prostate Cancer addresses everything from redefining intimacy to a wife’s anger and loneliness in the face of her husband’s illness, and is filled with useful information and advice to help others on the same path.

Ninety percent of the nearly 200,000 men diagnosed with prostate cancer annually will survive. But they and their partners are often left to figure out on their own how to deal with the sometimes devastating effects of treatment, which can include decreased libido, urinary difficulties, erectile dysfunction, and mood swings. Finally, here is a cautionary tale to make sure they don’t make the same mistakes along the way.